Single Older Women by Dena Dallenbach

This is a post that Dena (a member of Kineo) posted the other day and thought this would be a good platform to re-post it. I believe that we are in desperate need not of just just single older women, but of older men and women (married or unmarried) to rise up and be willing to finish well and pour in to the next generation. We have a few older men and women at Kineo who are finishing well and we continue to pray for more. Enough of me, here’s Dena’s heart:
Amongst the many things I have shared with some of you (at Kineo) I am particularly keen on the issue of the older women in the church, especially the single older women. Too often we see our singleness almost as a curse, when in fact it is a blessing. And I will go out on a limb here, it is one of the highest blessings. I say this in light of this scripture: “And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit.” (1 Corinthians 7:34). It is a part of the verse, not the whole verse. But it is significant. He says the same thing of the men who are single as well. But I speak to the women here. And I am not suggesting that a married woman is less blessed or special. That place is sacred and holy as well. Raising godly children, running a household, loving your husband and supporting, encouraging, assisting him in his endeavors and callings, holding him up in prayer, is all necessary and needed. Without you the rest of us are left swimming upstream against strong currents that might sweep us away.
But, what of the women who have become single or never married? Through choice, widowhood, divorce and whatever circumstances have set you in singleness? Be assured our Lord loves us and calls us. One of the directives to the older women is this: “Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.” (Titus 2:3-5).
We are not cursed or less than because we are single. We are blessed. I would not, myself, involve myself in a singles ministry. If God so chooses to bless me with a godly husband I will be glad. But if He does not, then I have a freedom to devote myself to the Lord, to serve Him wholly. Of course, I still require a covering and that would be my church (pastor), and Jesus Himself. But I have a unique position in that I can serve without hesitation to whatever the Lord calls me to.

I have found great joy, fulfillment, and contentment in the women. I am free to answer a call for help, comfort, service, whatever need arises without question. It is wonderful, and I am not lonely. I am alone much of the time, but I am not lonely. I also feel that my position helps the men of the church. When I am able to assist their wives I am assisting them (the men).

It is hard to live a godly life single and older in the world today. We need each other. Walk with me. Dena

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